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Harih Om Tat Sat. Jai Guru. Jai Guru.
Every one of us is born in a family. That means, at least 3 people are there in that family - Father, mother and the child born. If in the same family, more children were born or will be born, there will be additions to the family. So, an individual is supposed to live at least with 3 or 4 or 5 other members in a family. This family life is actually a very important factor in the individual’s life and growth.
Imagine a person who is born alone and lives alone. Generally, he will not have many of the qualities which a good, full-grown individual will and must have. Generally, people say an unmarried man is not mature. He doesn’t have many of the items of maturity which family people will have. So, it is necessary to have a group life and this is what the family provides. We learn what is meant by adjustment, we learn what is meant by sacrifice, we learn what is meant by living together with collectivity, mutuality and cohesion, cohesiveness. But I am wondering whether even a family life is sufficient for this. The answer is no because in the family you certainly have some degree of expansion of the mind to accommodate the family members. But there also, the overriding constriction is there. The people are related to you through blood and matrimony.
While very few people are related to you through blood and matrimony, the society around consists of several multiples of this number, all are unrelated to you through blood and matrimony. But this society is what encircles you. Whether it is in the domestic front, professional front or societal front, the mind has to have some definite qualities. You must know to manage yourself. You must know to get along with the family members. Even after marriage, the question of brothers and sisters and one’s own parents, all these come. In the same manner, you must also be able to get along with the society at large. It is all a process of expansion and greater and greater sublimation, enrichment and refinement.
In this process, I believe as I was mentioning to the people of Malaysia, coming to a centre like a spiritual centre, even here, and then getting along with the people around; so many people will come not related to you either by blood or matrimony. They will have different temperaments, different tendencies and all that. To be able to get along with them without any friction, when you get along closely with others, the tendency will be there to find fault with others. This 'finding fault with' is not good. Understand that human nature is like that. It certainly lends itself to a number of irregularities, wrong instigation, ambitions and what not! Every time, it should be an exposure for you resulting in enrichment and expansion.
So this cohesion will be possible only when you live in the company of others also. That is where a satsang which is regularly held in a place, Brahmavidya satsang, becomes very necessary and also useful. Here also, we are different members coming from different backgrounds, we are together. And every one must do well in the matter of appreciating each other and getting along collectively and mutually with an ample measure of cohesion. Unless you train your mind in order to get along with the others, I think there will be no peace, there will be no expansion.
Spirituality means - Austerity on the one hand no doubt, but refinement is very important and more than to or in an equal measure, we must also have expansion and more and more embracing-ness. You must be able to get along with all the people here without feeling any trouble whatsoever. You should not have any intolerance, jealousy, competition etc. Everyone has a certain ability, a certain aptitude, a certain background, a certain foreground also. Appreciate everything and get along with others. This requires humility on several occasions, adjustment regularly, being able to appreciate others especially in one’s own background, evaluate oneself in the background of the others, all these are to be done. And don’t think that this is purely behavioural or interactional. Every one of these implies your own mind and intelligence. And when the mind begins to think in terms of expansion, elevation, refinement and adjustment, understand that all these are spiritual qualities. That is why Bhagavad Gita says:
Like the rivers flowing into the ocean, the ocean receives them all, though they are not saline in character. All the rivers merge into the sea. The slush and the dirt are thrown down, sent down, and every river becomes saline on merging with the sea. The sea is sufficiently vast, sufficiently deep, not to be adversely affected by any inflow. And in reality, all this water that comes into it has vaporized from the surface of the sea itself.
So, it is our interaction and our relationship that bring their respective outcomes. When the outcomes come, you can only assimilate them; you cannot have a feeling that ‘I am confronted' or 'I am this' or 'I am that'. This ability to absorb, to assimilate all the inputs from the world is what makes one a sthita-prajña and a sthitadhee. So understand this mutuality and collectivity and the beautiful cohesion between all the people who live and work and move together, this is something very, very important – indispensable. And in the matter of achieving it is life in the ashram, having regular satsangs as we have in our centres, all these become indispensable. It is not even necessary, (but) indispensable. This is what we have to understand.
Harih Om Tat Sat. Jai Guru. Jai Guru.